On opportunities and trust


This past week, I almost signed up for a course that sounded really good to me. In fact, it sounded awesome and perfect. I know the creator of the course is amazing, and I’ve been wanting support in the area of the course material, and the pricing was just right.

It seemed like a no-brainer, but when it came to signing up, I was on the fence.

The deadline loomed and I couldn’t make up my mind. A part of me was convinced that if I didn’t take this course I’d regret it. And yet I couldn’t get myself to press the sign-up button.

I became really curious about what was going on for me here. I noticed that my mind was telling me it sounded great and it might be just what I needed and it was so inexpensive how could I not take it?

But when I dropped down from my mind, into my body, the idea of participating in the course felt heavy, even exhausting. It felt unnecessary. You don’t need it, my body said.

My mind started chattering, but … but … it has all these things you’ve been saying you need! It’s a chance for more learning, more connection, more growth! And it’s affordable! What’s wrong with you that you’re not signing up? The deadline, the deadline …

I dropped down into my body again, and got this message: We have enough learning, enough connection, enough growth for now. For right now, we have enough. Nothing more is needed.

I sat with this and I began to feel how supported I already am — even though my mind often tells me that I need “more support.”

As the deadline came and went, my mind did a wild, frantic dance. How can you pass up this opportunity? You must be mad. Mad, I tell you! You are going to regret this, bigtime!

The saner, quieter part of me sat and mused about all the noise my mind was making.

I saw my mind’s belief that the “right” opportunity only comes once, and that if I don’t grab it, I will be filled with regret. Forever.

I saw my mind’s belief that the “right” opportunity could totally transform my life. Forever.

I saw my mind’s belief that I need more of what I already have. Learning, connection, growth. Even if, at the moment, I feel “full.”

Then I thought about how the “true right” opportunities for me have usually had an organic feel to them. Like there was no decision to be made; the decision was making me, as Byron Katie might say.

When I am heavily on the fence, when there’s a forcing quality to a decision, usually the timing is not right — or perhaps I do not yet have enough information about the opportunity. Or, maybe, I just don’t need or want it.

Sometimes, it is difficult for me to say “I don’t want that.” And maybe even more difficult to say, “I don’t need it.”

But … what if I want it later? What if I need it later, and I don’t have it?

This comes up for me a lot when I decide to donate clothing or other things (which I’ve been doing a lot of this year). I’m convinced if I let something go, I’ll later regret that choice, or I’ll suddenly really need it and be without it.

What if that were to happen? What if I decide to let go of something and later realize I want it or need it? What then?

Can I tolerate the feeling of wanting? Of needing? Can I find alternative ways to meet that particular want or need?

(What more typically happens, at least with letting go of material things, is that I let go and never think of them again. This is not always so for other, more complex types of letting go.)

As for the course I decided not to take, my body is still fine with my decision, whereas from time to time over the past several days my mind has had a little fit — you should have signed up! What might you be missing out on?

The truth is, right now I don’t know exactly why my intuition (body wisdom) guided me away from this particular course. I may discover why later (maybe another opportunity that feels like a true YES will present itself). But, as I’ve written about before, intuition doesn’t always give us a reason. It simply knows. It’s trusting it that’s the tricky part.

And there’s something here, for me, about trusting that my needs will be met — sometimes, often, not in the exact way I think they will be, but they will be met. How many times do I consume more than I need because I am afraid that at some future point I will be deprived of what I need?

I think about the squirrels I see out and about all the time now, burying sustenance in the ground for the cold winter months. I’ve read that squirrels often forget where they bury things. I am like this, too, stocking up on things just in case and then forgetting.

What do you notice about trusting in your intuitive sense of what is enough for you? Is it difficult for you, too? I’d love it if you’d share, in the comments.

Image is “Squirrel with Peanut” © Kathy Davis | Dreamstime Stock Photos

6 thoughts on “On opportunities and trust

  1. Logically the mind is always right. However, Real life is never logical and straight forward. How easy would life be if it was! Intuition, knowing, the 6th sense, it happens all around in nature.

    I follow my intuition a lot more these days.


    • We really do create more struggle for ourselves when we try to rely on logic alone, don’t we? So glad to hear you’re connected to your intuition! Thanks for reading. 🙂


  2. Great reminder of the worth of coming down out of the mind and feeling into the body/intuition. When my intuition feels clear, then I have no problem trusting it because I’ve followed it through time and again and it’s never let me down However, there are times when it just doesn’t seem to be there, or to be 100%, it just doesn’t ‘feel’ like a knowing – then I get frustrated, and can’t work out if it’s me who doesn’t want to ‘know’ of if there really is an unknowing happening, which actually until this last year or so, was unusual for me…although my intuition is gaining power again, and it’s an unforced ‘gentle’ power making it all the more powerful because it’s just a letting go into what is, knowing that nothing and nobody can change what is meant to be. Oops, sorry for the very long comment – your post obviously touched something in me! Blessings Jill, H xxx


    • I hear you, Harula. Sometimes there is an unfolding that needs to occur before we get a totally clear sense of what our intuition is saying (although usually we’re trusting it, step by step, during that unfolding process, too, like a game of “warmer or colder”!). And sometimes we are learning to trust ourselves at a much deeper level, and during that time it can feel that we’re disconnected from intuition, but what’s actually happening is we’re developing a new relationship to it. I love that you’re feeling that unforced, gentle power with yours! Beautiful. Thanks for commenting, as always. 🙂


  3. Hi Jill,
    This post really spoke to me. In the Buddhist Shambhala teachings they talk about the idea of the ego’s compulsion to “grasping” … and for me, what you were describing was a “perfect” fit for my experience of that. I love the lines and resonate about the body simply “knowing”, only the mind needs a reason. Wonderful, thank you, Lee


    • Lee, I’m so glad this post struck a chord for you. Yes, the ego’s compulsion to grasp — that definitely fits with what I was experiencing! I definitely don’t make my best choices from that “graspy” place. Thanks so much for sharing, it’s always good to hear from you! 🙂


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